tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5987722178897570821.post4252466316738090842..comments2023-03-26T17:00:22.502+01:00Comments on That Rambling Woman: Willen Lake (Circular Walk)Bettibootshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14108199253181477620noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5987722178897570821.post-60245297861493003542012-04-06T14:33:21.117+01:002012-04-06T14:33:21.117+01:00Exactly. I really annoyed myself just this morning...Exactly. I really annoyed myself just this morning actually when someone at the Good Friday baby/child craft thing we'd gone to said "OOo! I saw your husband out with the pram the other day instead of the sling!" and I went off on the whole "But this is why we usually use the sling, it settles him a lot better and we live at the top of some steps anyway, blah-di-blah-blah-blah" justification speech. I even caught myself doing it, but the words had escaped. What I need to do is work on a thing where I catch myself in the middle of doing it and stop myself, politely say "Excuse me, I'm being a cock. I understand that you just made that comment as a polite way to make coversation, and I'm giving you a justification speech. I'm very sorry about that. So, shall we talk about something esle? What's annoyed you in the Daily Mail recently?" and get over it. It's a work in progress! :DBettibootshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14108199253181477620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5987722178897570821.post-2404300156721748452012-04-05T16:12:13.053+01:002012-04-05T16:12:13.053+01:00I only realised the other day that when the subjec...I only realised the other day that when the subject of bottle/breast feeding comes up and I have to "admit" that her ladyship has been bottle-fed, I shunt the blame onto her. "She's bottle-fed," I say. "I couldn't breastfeed," I continue. "Well, she couldn't, anyway" I conclude and there we are - it's all her fault if it's done her any harm, not mine, guv. I have resolved that I shall not do this again. After all, *I* know I could do no more, R knows I could do no more and, if her ladyship ever feels the need to ask, *she* will know that I could do no more and who else's business is it anyway? <br /><br />As for child-rearing gurus, I think you have hit the nail on the head. I soon realised that whatever I do, there will be at least one aspect of the way we raise her ladyship that will seem odd/wrong/bad to everyone, though what that aspect is will vary from person to person. I wish I had the confidence to be totally open about everything we do and not feel I need to justify things. Instead, I just keep quiet most of the time to avoid the whole judgement/justification mess. Indeed, justifying stuff is often tricky as a lot of what we do has just happened, usually because it suits her ladyship and it suits us, and there is no particular justification for doing it this way rather than that way or the other way. At least, if we were following someone's instructions I would have a nice neat explanation as to why we do X.Anna Cheethamnoreply@blogger.com